Setting goals, the process...

January, 22nd, 2019

Dear Diary,

Even though I've talked about setting goals, I haven't thought about what exactly my goals would be. Or even the theme of my new resolutions. But I am in the mood. I am filled with positive energy for what is coming up.

I have a lot of things going on in my mind, so I will start with the first step:

What are the main subjects of my life? (I just made the first step up).

I used to watch a TV show and there was a life coach who asked the main character to write down the four most important things in her life.

Her answer was Her daughter - Her Job - Her Boyfriend - Her Crush.

And then the Life Coach, without seeing what the main character wrote, asked her to cross the last thing she wrote, because it will only causes her downfall. She better has to focus on the 3 first things she wrote.

Here's my list: Be beautiful - Be rich - Be loved - Be productive

Wait, wait... I missed the point, it's not what the most important things in my current life. It is what I wish for. I may keep it in my notes to help me settling my goals...

Ok let's try again: Improving - Loving - Sharing - Being grateful...

Ok... It's too vague... I don't think I can do better for now...

Let's be more specific:

Improving

I come from a long way, I used to have dreams, and be stuck in my bed, being in the doldrums. Until I've decided, one day, to make my dreams come true.

I count acquiring skills and knowledge as dreams.

And the journey, that starts with a wish, then keeps on with informing myself, teaching myself, and finally making it happen, shapes my life.

Loving

Love is a board term. It refers to what you love, like singing, watching TVshows, making arts.... But the Love term can go deeper. I'm not saying that loving doing stuff isn't deep. Then what the word "passion" will exist for?

When I say deeper, I mean the kind of love that involves others, the kind of love that you give and receive. It refers to Self-love, friends love, family love, pet love, strangers love...

It refers also to toxic love that we should get rid of. But before getting rid of it you have to understand it, understand why it is toxic to you and if you can do anything to switch that love, from toxic to healthy.

Sharing

Here again, it is a board term. To me it is really important to share.

Not necessarily sharing what you own. Material sharing.

It is important to share what you've learned, what you know, how you feel, your perception of life...

The word "share" involves others, it links you to people.

Sharing is communicating with the world.

Other people have their own lessons to teach, their own opinions, it is often hard to listen, because we may disagree or think that our way to think is the only one to follow. But listening to what others have to say doesn’t mean we agree with them.

In facts it will help us to be inspired or to inspire.

So we have to teach ourselves how to listen to others. We have to work on our way to receive Information from the outside and to communicate what is inside.

Being Grateful

My mom, who was an orphan, used to tell me, all my childhood:

"You have no right to be sad, you have a roof, food and parents".

Because of that, I suppressed my feelings, until I turned 17 and blew a fuse.

But she didn't mean "drive back your emotions", even though that is what I understood.

What she really meant was: Be grateful for having what you have.

We are so brainwashed by Instagram, Tvshows, movies, books... And we compare our lives to it. And even if we are not into it, we also compare ourselves to people, people that are surrounding us. Unconsciously we do.

Instead of being happy with what we have and go forward for something bigger, along with positive vibes. We blame our lives for not being as we wished. And you cannot fight for what you want, for you dreams, when Negativity is sucking all of your energy.

All of this important things in my life are linked and my last choice cannot be deleted.

I don't think that I did this exercise properly because it is too vague. But, at least, now I know what I aspire to, I know the basement of my life.

Besos.

R.